Today I am going to talk about Impotter Syndrome.
Do you ever fear if you will be able to find it? It’s just a matter of time when everyone realizes that you’re not as smart as they thought you were, or that you don’t really know what you’re doing?
I have been suffering from thopa syndrome for years. And I am going to share some occasions when it cripples me a lot.
But I’m going to share seven different strategies that you can use to deal with Importer Syndrome, and even have it working for you rather than working against you. To begin with…
1. Embrace the positive
If you are concerned with Importer Syndrome, it means that you want to give your best and achieve something.
And it’s a good thing.
No, it does not cure you of important syndrome. But this means that you have standards. You just don’t want to get you want to achieve.
And for this you have to hang something. If you don’t feel like an impenetrable, you probably won’t be content to fly with your pants seat.
2. Set Realistic Expectations
I have been paralyzed by imposter syndrome over the years.
One such incident was a few years ago at the World Domination Summit, when Chris Guilbo invited me to speak in front of 4,000 people in Portland, Oregon.
Within a few hours of saying yes, Imposter Syndrome began to sink. It got so bad at one point that I was waking up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat.
I wrestled with my presentation for months, and at one point almost kicked out. “I’m really sorry, Chris,” I wrote in a draft email. “I know it’s last minute, but I can’t do it”.
Luckily, I felt that a lot of my ideas were completely unrealistic, and I set unrealistic expectations of both myself and my presentation.
I was portraying my presentation as the pinnacle of my speaking career. One thing that will hang on to everything else in my life later. One thing that changes the lives of everyone in the room and I love it.
I was dreaming of perfectionism which was beyond what was possible. And that perfectionism started creeping into my mind.
I never sent that email. Instead I flew to Portland and performed. And it was one of the best things I’ve ever done.
Perfectionism can be good because it can help you improve. But when you start to learn about it like I was, then you realize that what you are imagining cannot possibly achieve.
And you start feeling like an impenetrable one.
3. Focus on your audience
One thing that really helped me face my fears and was present at that peak was realizing that all my worries were incredibly selfish. None of them had anything to do with my audience. They were all about me, and how I can be understood.
And so I started thinking about my audience:
- who were they
- How must they be feeling
- What could be the reality of his life
- How can my words affect their lives.
- It was a powerful thing for me. This shifted the focus away from my self-centered, greedy, selfish thinking (which was not helping me anyway), and for the reason that I am present among the audience for the first time.
Whether you are a blogger, YouTuber, Instagrammer, podcaster or speaker, this is great advice. It is very easy to think in terms of how our content looks to us.
“How do I see it?”
“Will I be alright?”
You really need to challenge those ideas and ask yourself, “How would it feel to my readers?” And “How can I change their life somehow?”
4. Be Transparent
The only way people can really call you a cheater or fake is if:
- You’re trying to be something you’re not
- You are hiding some reality of your situation from them.
Cliff Ravencraft talked a bit about this in the social media marketing world. His suggestion was to be as honest as you can while writing your content, which effectively tells the reader, “This is who I am, that’s what I’ve experienced at this point, that’s what I’m learning, And these are my hopes, dreams, and goals for the future ”.
This is especially related to people blogging on a subject they are not qualified to write about. People often ask me the question, “I want to write about accounting, but I don’t qualify as an accountant. Can I legitimately write about it?” And when they do, I’m almost Always tell the story of how I started ProBlogger.
For the first two years of ProBlogger I liked it a lot. I didn’t think I had the same experience as other people, I don’t think I was technical enough. And when I was on my way to becoming a full-time blogger, I didn’t feel that I was a great writer.
Instead I felt that I am lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time. And it was only a matter of time when people saw my weaknesses, my inadequacies and my knowledge gaps.
To deal with this, I decided to be very transparent about everything I knew.
The first couple of years on ProBlogger was my story. I shared what I was trying, which was working for me and which was not working for me. I pointed to the areas I had no skills. I shared my own questions, and asked my readers to teach me. I pointed out the failures I had and the mistakes I made (even embarrassing).
And when I did not answer a question, I accepted.
If you feel that you do not have the qualifications or answers, then accept it. By doing this, you extract ammunition from those people when they accuse you of being fake.
5. Own Your Successes
People who suffer from imposter syndrome often find it difficult to internalize their own successes and their own. Instead they ask them for external factors such as good times and good luck.
Countering these feelings is difficult because often it is our way of thinking. But being aware of the problem can also help, because there are things you can do to close the chain of thinking.
It is often about our patterns of thinking and our patterns of speaking. And so we need to break those patterns.
Whenever I say things like “I was lucky” or “I was in the right place at the right time”, I change my mind. Instead of saying “I was lucky”, I say something like, “I worked hard for that opportunity”, which is a lot more realistic.
Yes, I was in the right place at the right time when I started blogging. But I have worked with my butt every day. I have worked hard for the opportunities that have been given to me.
You need your successes, and the work you have done to achieve what you have achieved.
And when people accept your success or give you positive feedback, you need to do it yourself. So thanking them for your success, thank them. Do not deny your success – embrace it.
Of course, many times we fail. But let your failures dominate you because they can feed the impenetrable syndrome. Instead, rewrite your failures as learning opportunities. Accept your failures, then use them as a springboard to success.
6. Say “yes” to opportunities that stretch you
This may sound a bit counterproductive. But I believe a lot in saying “yes” to things you’re not sure you can do – unless you’re transparent about it.
The only way to become an expert or a known person in your industry or niche is to gather knowledge and put yourself in a position where the rubber hits the road.
If you live for fear of being called a fake, but you are not ready to put yourself in a position where you will learn and grow, you will never fall into the past.
You need to leave your comfort zone.
If someone feels that you can do something that you are not sure about, then think of the opportunity as a vote of confidence. Say “yes”, and then learn to do it.
You may need to say, “Yes, I will do it. But I will need to learn a few things along the way” or “Okay. But I may need some support in this area because I have no qualifications. is “.
But take any opportunity that will get you out of your comfort zone, because by doing this you will move a lot.
7. Learn to live with it
Unless I’m a psychologist, I doubt we’ll ever erase Imposter Syndrome. After dealing with it for decades, I am aware of the fact that I have to deal with it whenever it comes my way.
We need to learn to use imposter syndrome to help us learn, develop and achieve great things.
Above all, we need to learn not to paralyze it.
If this is paralyzing you at the moment (which it may well be), I want you to talk to someone about it, and get some accountability around it. This can be a friend, a fellow blogger, or someone who can provide you with professional help.
What you know, what you can tell, or the ways in which you can make the world a better place, will not let the world rob you of important syndrome.
Instead I want you to deal with it, live with it, learn from it and keep it in its place.
Are you suffering from imposter syndrome? How have you dealt with it? Share your stories in the comments.